I haven't heard from that job so I am going to go ahead and assume it's not happening. I know that's what I did last time and it turned out otherwise, but I figure I just have to go on with what I know. And that is that I am working a lot at the cafe and making fairly decent money and that while it is sometimes still difficult to wake up so early in the morning I absolutely love getting out no later than 3 (usually before 2). I also love completely being myself and the people I work with are great too, as are many of the regulars. It's nice to have SOME sense of a social life in this virtual social void I have been living in. Work does that for me. There are still some things up in the air with the cafe and I hope they work out for the best, but we'll just take things as they come. I am not going to stress out over it too much. For now, things are being taken care of financially and otherwise and what's to fret over?
We are busy busy busy packing and slowly moving boxes over to the new digs. Slowly, buy surely, I think things will work themselves out. I am feeling inspired (though I say this in a mumble-tone lest I over-estimate my feelings) to write and paint and draw and photograph and Alex and I are carefully planning how we are going to work out things in the new apartment so that our stuff takes up less space and will hopefully be less overwhelming.
I am kind of insisting on a workspace. Right now, my work space consists of a small corner of the floor, but it is mostly my fault being that I can't bring myself to get rid of a book or a knick knack apparently. I would love to have an office/studio, but that day will come. For now, all I am asking for is a corner with a work table. We will be getting rid of a lot of stuff in this move (furniture-wise) so that's hopeful. And Alex has his office at school and will still have the coffee-table and now even a kitchen table for math stuffs...so hopefully it will be a fair trade. We won't have our comfy couches, but we will have plenty of places to sit, a comfy bed and what I am hoping is a house that is a tad more conducive to productivity.
Speaking of which, here is a shirt I made for my lil' sis for her birthday. (I took a pic of her wearing it, but it was too dark to use.)
It's kind of silly, I'll admit, a bit much. And I didn't take a lick of enough time to do it really well, but it was kind of nice to slap dash something together for her to wear at her birthday dinner, which finally happened yesterday.
Also yesterday I found out another good friend of mine will be having a little bebe. I cannot believe the proliferation of my friends (almost all male) who have been falling in love, getting babified and are in the midst of moving out west. Today at work, during a lull, I almost started crying. I am happy for all my friends, but I really started to feel this sense of loss. So many of my friends are leaving. And though now I don't get to see them nearly as much as I would like to (they are all already at least an hour away, and in some cases two), they are at the same time only 1-2 hours away! Across the country though, that's a Christmas visit MAYBE if we are lucky. And with babies and other family obligations. Oy! I hate it. I am happy for them, but I hate that so much of my life has been glumped into this "remember when" transistion instead of a "hey I am making crazy memories!" thing. Does that make any kind of sense?
Don't get me wrong, I look forward to what is to come, I know how important that whole making your own life and family and whatever thing is. I look forward to it myself. The more I think about it, the more I look forward to one day having this big ol' (or small ol') brood of my own. Kids and their friends and ice tea on the porch. Birthday parties and sled rides and family dinners. The whole nine yards. I'll even take the bickering for a boisterous household. But I feel too like I am mourning a bit of something. Mourning my past, my single crazy what the hell are we doing and when will it all make sense, past. And mostly my friends.
I was talking with my boss about that today. She is in her mid 40's and has two grown children. I was asking her if she felt like it ever made sense. Was there ever a day when she didn't feel like she was winging it? The long and the short of it, no. She did say it was pretty amazing to have these two grown kids now. To talk to. Wild. I think it is anyway. But, yeah, even now, she wings it.
Some people seem to have it so together though. Today at the cafe, this girl I went to college with came in. (I should say woman.) Anyway, she comes in fairly regularly, and her husband, the fire chief, does as well. I didn't even recognize her all those times which is funny because her parents and she along with myself and my folks all ate together at this family dinner my freshman year of college. It's not like I totally didn't know her. Anyway. Today she asked if I went to MC and as soon as she did I realized who she was. Her, with her kid (who must have been 2) and her fancy car and her fancy fire chief husband--well, it all seemed very adult. And I felt like such a teenager in comparison. Making her a chai and accepting her tip. It's so silly this thing I put on myself. I really oughtn't compare myself to her. She is a lovely woman who happens to have different interests than me. I don't think the life she leads would appeal to me. It wouldn't fit. So I should just be happy for her and think nothing of it. I don't covet what she has, instead I question myself. What the hell is my M.O.? Am I ok with where I am? With where I am eventually (hopefully) going? Ramble ramble ramble.
Moving on.
I hope to work on a painting soon after I move based on this photo of mah' man.
I like the pers-
pective and the color and the subject matter, so I hope I can work it a bit. I think I ought to do several sketches and perhaps several paintings in various styles. I always feel this guilt/aversion to painting from photographs. This teacher I had in a drawing class in collage was SO against it saying that drawings and paintings always seemed so flat. And I can see what she means, but you know what? Fuggit. (leeeeee!) In fact, I took a lot of pcitures of this "scene" knowing that I would choose one to paint. We'll see what happens.
I am afraid I might be coming down with whatever my boss has. Some kind of cold. But then, it could just be those margaritas followed by waking up at 4 o'clock this morning.
Why doesn't someone stop me?




